STOP DRIFTING. START CONNECTING.
Build a marriage marked by deeper trust, stronger communication, genuine friendship, spiritual connection, and lasting intimacy.
YOUR MARRIAGE DOESN’T HAVE TO BE IN CRISIS TO NEED GREATER CONNECTION.
Most marriages do not suddenly fall apart.
They slowly drift.
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Schedules become crowded. Conversations become practical. Affection becomes less intentional. Misunderstandings go unresolved, and two people who deeply love each other can begin to feel more like roommates than intimate partners.
But drift does not have to define your marriage.
With intentionality, practical tools, honest conversations, and the right support, you can begin moving toward one another again.
WITH THE RIGHT TOOLS...
YOU CAN BUILD THE KIND OF INTIMACY YOU BOTH DESIRE.
Intimacy is more than sex.
It is the experience of being known, trusted, enjoyed, pursued, understood, and deeply connected.
Inside the Intimacy Collective, you and your spouse will discover how to strengthen six essential areas of your relationship through:
- Weekly live coaching with Ben and Heather
- Practical teaching and guided conversations
- Weekly intimacy challenges
- A private online community
- Tools you can immediately use in your marriage
- Two focused weeks on each foundation of intimacy
You will not simply learn more about marriage.
You will practice becoming more connected.
INTRODUCING
THE INTIMACY COLLECTIVE
The Intimacy Collective will help you identify where your marriage is strong, recognize where distance has developed, and begin building new rhythms of connection.
Over the course of 12 weeks, you will spend 2 weeks strengthening each of the 6 Foundations of Intimacy. Â
Each foundation addresses a different part of your relationship, but together they create a marriage that is connected, resilient, enjoyable, and deeply intimate.
THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT IS WORTH PURSUING
THERE IS MORE AVAILABLE FOR YOUR MARRIAGEÂ
Inside the Intimacy Collective, you will learn how to:
- Create greater emotional safety
- Communicate without immediately becoming defensive
- Understand one another’s needs and desires
- Rebuild affection and physical connection
- Enjoy life and create meaningful memories together
- Develop shared direction for your marriage
- Strengthen your sexual relationship
- Pursue God together
- Recognize the habits that create distance
- Establish rhythms that protect intimacy for the future
By the end of the cohort, you will have more than information.
You will have a practical framework and a shared language for continuing to build intimacy long after the twelve weeks are complete.
FOUNDATIONÂ 1
EMOTIONAL INTIMACY
BUILDINGÂ TRUST
Emotional intimacy grows when both people feel safe enough to be honest, vulnerable, and fully known.
During these two weeks, you will learn how to:
- Create emotional safety in your marriage
- Recognize language that communicates rejection
- Share your thoughts and feelings more clearly
- Listen without immediately defending or fixing
- Address unresolved hurt with honesty and grace
The goal: To create a marriage where both spouses feel known, accepted, and emotionally safe.
FOUNDATION 2
PHYSICAL INTIMACY
PRACTICING PRESENCE
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Physical intimacy includes the everyday affection, warmth, attention, and closeness that communicate, “I am here, and you matter to me.”
During these two weeks, you will learn how to:
- Become more physically and emotionally present
- Reintroduce intentional affection
- Understand how touch communicates connection
- Identify habits that make your spouse feel overlooked
- Build rhythms of closeness outside the bedroom
The goal: To restore warmth, affection, and meaningful presence in your relationship.
FOUNDATIONÂ 3
EXPERIENTIAL INTIMACY
REDISCOVERING DELIGHTÂ
Healthy marriages are not only built through serious conversations. They are also strengthened through laughter, play, adventure, and shared experiences.
During these two weeks, you will learn how to:
- Rebuild friendship in your marriage
- Create meaningful shared experiences
- Become curious about one another again
- Make room for play, laughter, and adventure
- Develop intentional rhythms of dating and enjoyment
The goal: To genuinely enjoy being together and create a marriage filled with shared memories.
FOUNDATIONÂ 4
DIRECTIONAL INTIMACY
STEWARDING YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER
Directional intimacy develops when a couple shares priorities, makes decisions together, and moves toward a common future.
During these two weeks, you will learn how to:
- Clarify your shared values and priorities
- Communicate about expectations
- Make decisions as a unified team
- Navigate finances, schedules, family, and responsibilities
- Create a shared vision for your marriage
The goal: To move in the same direction with clarity, unity, and purpose.
FOUNDATION 5
SEXUALÂ INTIMACY
STRENGTHENING COVENANT CONNECTION
Sexual intimacy is designed to be safe, powerful, pleasurable, and deeply connecting within marriage.
During these two weeks, you will learn how to:
- Communicate more openly about sex
- Understand differences in desire
- Address shame, disappointment, or misunderstanding
- Recognize the emotional and relational dimensions of sexuality
- Build a sexual relationship marked by mutuality, trust, and connection
The goal: To cultivate a healthy sexual relationship where both spouses feel valued, pursued, and connected.
FOUNDATIONÂ 4
SPIRITUAL INTIMACY
PURSUING GOD AND PURPOSE TOGETHER
Spiritual intimacy grows when a couple learns to seek God together and recognize that their marriage carries a shared assignment.
During these two weeks, you will learn how to:
- Pray together in practical and sustainable ways
- Encourage one another spiritually
- Recognize what God is doing in your marriage
- Pursue your shared calling and assignment
- Build spiritual rhythms that continue beyond the cohort
The goal: To experience greater unity through prayer, spiritual pursuit, and shared purpose.
WHAT YOU WILL EXPERIENCE
THIS IS MORE THAN AN ONLINE COURSE
The Intimacy Collective combines teaching, coaching, community, conversation, and practical application.
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WEEKLY LIVE COACHING
Join Ben and Heather each week for live teaching, coaching, practical marriage tools, and community questions.
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PRIVATE COMMUNITY
Connect with other couples who are intentionally investing in their marriages. Celebrate progress, ask questions, and receive encouragement throughout the journey.
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WEEKLY INTIMACY CHALLENGES
Connect with other couples who are intentionally investing in their marriages. Celebrate progress, ask questions, and receive encouragement throughout the journey.
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GUIDED CONVERSATIONS
You will receive questions and exercises that help you talk about subjects couples often avoid or do not know how to discuss.
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THE SIX-FOUNDATION FRAMEWORK
You will gain a shared language for identifying strengths, addressing areas of disconnection, and continuing to grow together.
HEY, BEN & HEATHER ROSE HERE
We have been married for more than 24Â years, and we are the parents of three children and a grandson on the way!
We are pastors, marriage coaches, communicators, and the founders of Cross the Island. For years, we have helped individuals and couples experience healing, freedom, restored trust, and deeper intimacy.
But we are not teaching marriage from a place of perfection.
We know what it means to work through disappointment, misunderstanding, differing expectations, busy seasons, parenting, ministry, sexuality, communication struggles, and the everyday pressures that can create distance between two people.
We have also experienced what happens when a couple chooses to stop drifting and intentionally moves toward one another.
We believe your marriage can become a place where both people are known, safe, enjoyed, challenged, strengthened, and deeply loved.
The Intimacy Collective was created to give couples a practical framework for building that kind of relationship.
We would be honored to walk with you over these next three months.
—Ben and Heather Rose
ENROLLMENT
JOIN THE INTIMACY COLLECTIVE
Invest twelve weeks in building a marriage marked by greater trust, affection, friendship, unity, sexual connection, and spiritual purpose.
A 14-DAY SATISFACTION GUARANTEE
We want you to feel confident about investing in your marriage.
Participate in the course, watch the teaching, and begin using the material. If you decide within the first fourteen days that the Intimacy Collective is not the right fit for you, contact us for a full refund.